Yesterday was one of those days for me when just things do go your way!
I started practicing BJJ (Brazilian Jiu Jitsu) 🤼♂️ a few weeks ago and I started to really love it! It's a very addictive sport and also super challenging both physically and mentally.
What I love the most about BJJ is the skill-learning path. I love starting something new and mastering a skill. I think is very important to have this mindset and practice it as you will stay open to new opportunities and also you will be able to solve more problems, more efficient.
Anyway, the reason yesterday sucked, was that I got an injury when sparring with a partner. Partially it's my fault because I knew that he was a lot heavier than me and probably it wasn't very smart to spar with him. Choosing a partner that's more my size and weight probably was smarter than choosing someone that's almost 2 times heavier... 🤦♂️
The injury I got was in my chest area. I believe I bruised a rib when my partner rolled on me with all his weight. I tapped immediately as I was feeling very uncomfortable, but the pain kinda persisted. I don't believe I broken my rib, more so, bruised it. I tried to find a doctor the same day to see how severe is the injury, but unfortunately, they are closed on the weekends and apparently on Monday too as it's a national holiday... 😕
I felt like a failure and a loser as I now have to take a break from BJJ and recover. I feel like every time I start something I really like, something gets in the way and prevents me from doing what I love.
Back in 2020
The same thing happened with Scuba Diving. In 2020, while I was training for my Open Water Diver license, I got DCS (Decompression Sickness) that took me to recover almost 6 months, after which I didn't dive anymore as I was more susceptible to getting DCS again. The plan was to take Nitrox (can prevent DCS) course and dive with Nitrox using the decompression schedule for air diving, but I didn't get the chance to do it for reasons I still have don't know (excuses/fear).
So what now?
I really love Scuba Diving and BJJ, but injuries like this make me feel like my body is so weak and I can't accomplish my goals fully...
Today I woke up and decided to take things slowly, I did a 15 min stretch going way slower than I usually do and just focusing on what my body needs and what feels good. After, I did a 10 min meditation which opened my eyes a little bit wider and made me realize that I am in this for the long-term and not short-term.
Injuries in Scuba Diving and BJJ happen all the time. Instead of looking at it to stop me from doing it, I try to look at it as being a part of the sport itself.
The mental game
More than physically, this is a mental game! Just look at UFC. Fighters sometimes lose a very big fight just because of an Ankle Sprain. I bet they must get very frustrated. It's just the part of the game. The thing that matters is how you respond to it, do you lose hope and just stop doing it altogether or do you recover and try again?
My mind was telling me to take a rest and not go to BJJ classes as I obviously cannot spar. I didn't want to go, because deeply I am afraid of what others will think about me when seeing that I cannot spar. They might think I am weak and over-sensitive. You see, this is another excuse our mind plays with us.
I could just show up and watch the training, I could still learn something good from it. Not only that, I can turn that into something more powerful!
How many beginners when they get injured actually go back to training and face the awkwardness and the feelings that make you feel like you suck?
That's the strength, showing up and facing your demons, being patient and spending more time stretching, and using that time to learn something else. That's the real strength because you can control those things! David Goggins calls this "taking souls" and I highly relate to that!
Things happen in life, you get injured, you fail an exam, you have to start all other again! It's about what do you do about it, do you crumble and cry to yourself about how life sucks (which I allow myself 5-10 minutes sometimes 😅) or you take actions in how to overcome these challenges?
The truth is, I really want to go and actually spar, but if that can lead to aggravating my injury which would make my recovery even longer, I would better take time off and recover properly. Don't get me wrong, I will still do as much as I can with the situation I am in now...
I am just 25 y.o and I have a lot of time to practice BJJ again, 4-6 weeks won't matter that much if I play the long-term game.
This doesn't mean I figured everything out. I still don't want to go tomorrow to my BJJ class and have to face those demons, but I will!
If you reached the end, I really salute you and hope you found it useful, inspiring, motivational, whatever it is as long as it helps you! 🙏
How to Build Resilience
I actually talked about "How to Build Resilience" in one of my recent podcast episodes with Brock Predovich, one of my very good friends and long-term business partner 🤝.
We went on a whole emotional roller coaster journey with Brock talking about Entrepreneurship, Anxiety, Depression, Family, Traveling and how we managed to overcome those obstacles. We were very vulnerable about our journey in hopes to help other people who might be struggling with the same things.
Make sure to check it out 👇 if you think those topics resonate with you. 😊
Until then, I wish you an amazing week and see you next time! 🙂
💬 Let me know how do you deal with obstacles in your life!